Three Big Lies That Keep You StuckMay 11, 2023
Not too long ago I made a big goof in my business. Owning a business has lots of highs and lows.
The goof has had my headspace in some super lows lately.
Sometimes I still make the mistake of letting my perfectionist tendencies demand 100% not only in my effort but in the outcomes too.
Neither life nor business works that way.
Patsy (my name for my inner critic) doesn’t care. She has a triple threat strategy and if I’m not willing stand up and fight for myself, she'll keep me down in the dirt.nticity. And to be open with you about the ups, the downs, and everything in between. To be your coach and share what I can to bring you to a place of greater alignment of who you're created to be.
She's a master liar and her strategy is to convince me of the lies. I bet you recognize the 3 lies because of a time they were whispered in your ear. Maybe like me it wasn't that long ago.
Lie #1 – Perfection is the path to self-worth.
Perfection's a myth. But this tactic's effective because when you allow it to take hold, it robs you from embracing your wins.
Lie #2 – Your work must be flawless.
This tactic works when you buy into the lie that you're always missing the mark so why even try.
Lie #3 - You're a failure.
This lie's a favorite because few things paralyze us faster than the fear of failure and public embarrassment.
I've made a promise to myself to live a life of fearless authenticity. And to be open with you about the ups, the downs, and everything in between. To be your coach and share what I can to bring you to a place of greater alignment of who you're created to be.
Fearless authenticity isn’t always easy, but it’s always worth it.
My mistake made me take a hard look at some things. Because I know at a core level who I am through the lens of my Strengths and have great truth-telling friends, I know that I’m not my goof. I’m not the screw up I initially felt like.
That was a huge relief.
Have you ever made a big goof? Feel like a screw up?
You’re not a screw up.
You’re an imperfect human just like me. And like me, I want you to have solid support when your inner critic really grabs you and pulls you in close as it spews those hissing lies. If you haven't yet taken my What's Your Inner Critic's Personality? quiz yet, click the link above and get started. It's a great first step for quieting the harsh inner critic that's trying to keep you stuck.
MaryAnn Gramig, CEO, AuthenticA Coaching & Consulting
MaryAnn is a speaker, Gallup Certified CliftonStrengths coach, and Leadership Development Consultant. She enjoys helping people learn how to calm their inner critic, find the strength of their authentic voice, and define their version of personal and professional success. For more insights on living and leading with fearless authenticity visit her at www.calmyourinnercritic.com, or follow her on fb, Instagram and LinkedIn.
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